3 tips to help you work through an argument.

Last night there was a huge misunderstanding with my husband. My babysitter's kids were sick, and I had a class I needed to teach today. I had already cancelled once, so I was panicking trying to find somewhere for my kids to go so I didn't have to cancel twice. I asked my husband if he could take the morning off, to which he said, "it would be impossible." I scrambled, texting friends nearby who might be willing to watch them a couple hours. I could tell my husband felt bad,

How to get fear and mental exhaustion to finally take a backseat.

My oldest son had his first Volleyball practice last night. Yes, you heard me. My boy is playing volleyball. He brought the registration paper home to me a couple weeks ago, and I asked if he was interested in playing. He said he told his friends it didn’t sound fun because he didn’t want to be made fun of, but he was actually really interested in trying it out. (I’m so dang proud of him for trying something even with the fear of being made fun of! But that’s a story for anot

Loving Life Even When You’re Suffering.

I can sit here and spew all the self-care ways we can try to ease our suffering. But I have a feeling you know most of those. I’ve tried them all in my many attempts to take the pain away, and stop the self-sabotaging cycles that come from trying to numb out emotions. They are helpful in some ways, but not in others. Because it still has us seeking ways to avoid pain, as if pain is something that we shouldn’t be feeling; a foreign object to be fought and pushed out. We all su

Post-Corona Depression

Your world shut down. No more work. No more friends. No more soccer games. No more school. No more family visits. No more outings.

Emotional health does not equal happiness.

We have been conditioned from a young age to believe that being emotionally healthy means being happy all the time. We might even feel we are owed happiness, that we deserve it, and we are entitled to all the happiness the world has to offer. We are taught that circumstances and other people control our emotions. Other people hurt our feelings or bring us joy, and things make us happy or make us sad. When our life is going good we feel good, and when our life is going bad we