Is it Time to Change Your Focus?

Do you need a microscope, or a telescope? Are you zoomed in so far that you can’t see the big picture? Or, are you zoomed so far out that you can’t focus on the next task to move you forward? We create fear, worry, anxiety and overwhelm when we stay in one lens for too long. We feel overwhelmed with all the tasks at hand when we stay zoomed out, and we create fear and worry (which compound into anxiety) when we stayed zoomed in. But when we allow ourselves to move between the

Getting out of the shame and blame game.

In the last 24 hours I’ve found myself wishing more than anything to go into my closet and hide behind my hanging clothes. Like I would do as a kid when I got in trouble or made a mistake and didn’t want anyone to look at me. To duck out. To have a significant amount of time where no one could see me, and I could just sit in the silence and pretend to not exist. It sounds dramatic, but it’s my defense mechanism for overwhelming emotion that doesn’t feel great; that has me que

Was I supposed to be a mom?

I used to think there was something wrong with me. I hated doing dishes and laundry, day in and day out. Dealing with whining kids who seemed to do nothing but fight and complain all the live long day. I struggled connecting with my kids, and after what seemed like the 10th parenting book I read in an attempt to “get better at momming,” I came to truly believe that the key to my problems was the relationship I had with them. I had been taught my whole life that family relatio

Emotional health does not equal happiness.

We have been conditioned from a young age to believe that being emotionally healthy means being happy all the time. We might even feel we are owed happiness, that we deserve it, and we are entitled to all the happiness the world has to offer. We are taught that circumstances and other people control our emotions. Other people hurt our feelings or bring us joy, and things make us happy or make us sad. When our life is going good we feel good, and when our life is going bad we