Is it Time to Change Your Focus?

Do you need a microscope, or a telescope? Are you zoomed in so far that you can’t see the big picture? Or, are you zoomed so far out that you can’t focus on the next task to move you forward? We create fear, worry, anxiety and overwhelm when we stay in one lens for too long. We feel overwhelmed with all the tasks at hand when we stay zoomed out, and we create fear and worry (which compound into anxiety) when we stayed zoomed in. But when we allow ourselves to move between the

What is your story?

We all have a story. ⠀ Each of us. ⠀ It’s our collective experience of life we create from how we process what is happening around us—From the thoughts we are thinking about our life, the people in our life, and the events that have encompassed the years we’ve spent on earth. ⠀ You might fully believe it’s truth, not story— that you’re telling me the news. That the pain from your past, from your relationships, from the circumstances you’ve had thrown at you are all just thing

Loving Life Even When You’re Suffering.

I can sit here and spew all the self-care ways we can try to ease our suffering. But I have a feeling you know most of those. I’ve tried them all in my many attempts to take the pain away, and stop the self-sabotaging cycles that come from trying to numb out emotions. They are helpful in some ways, but not in others. Because it still has us seeking ways to avoid pain, as if pain is something that we shouldn’t be feeling; a foreign object to be fought and pushed out. We all su

Getting out of the shame and blame game.

In the last 24 hours I’ve found myself wishing more than anything to go into my closet and hide behind my hanging clothes. Like I would do as a kid when I got in trouble or made a mistake and didn’t want anyone to look at me. To duck out. To have a significant amount of time where no one could see me, and I could just sit in the silence and pretend to not exist. It sounds dramatic, but it’s my defense mechanism for overwhelming emotion that doesn’t feel great; that has me que

Lose weight for the LAST TIME.

Why do we overeat? It’s simple. We have no control. Just kidding! That’s totally a lie. Although it might feel that way at times. We’re sitting at the counter and look down, and half the bag of potato chips is gone, half the carton of ice cream has disappeared, or there’s a great big handful of empty Milky Way wrappers (I love me some caramely goodness!). So, what happened? Maybe we had a long day at work, fought with our kids most of the day, or yelled at our spouse... and w

How to go from Survive to THRIVE.

A few nights ago I went to bed panicked. The day had been crazy— full of taking care of kids, trying to get some work done in-between screams and yells for “MOM,” making dinner, and work calls in the evening. I hadn’t even had a chance to have a conversation with my husband, and it was 11pm. Then the thought came. ⠀ “We are in survival mode.” ⠀ It came instantaneously. It’s definitely not the first time I’ve told myself we were in survival mode (and it won’t be the last.) And

I don’t know if the church is true.

Today was fast and testimony meeting in my ward. I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, and once a month we hold a fast. We fast for 2 meals, and donate that money to help others in need. Our Sunday service on this particular Sunday looks like members from the congregation going up to bear their knowledge and testimony of the gospel of Jesus Christ on this earth. I haven’t born my testimony in a fast and testimony meeting since I was 12 years old. W

Was I supposed to be a mom?

I used to think there was something wrong with me. I hated doing dishes and laundry, day in and day out. Dealing with whining kids who seemed to do nothing but fight and complain all the live long day. I struggled connecting with my kids, and after what seemed like the 10th parenting book I read in an attempt to “get better at momming,” I came to truly believe that the key to my problems was the relationship I had with them. I had been taught my whole life that family relatio

Emotional health does not equal happiness.

We have been conditioned from a young age to believe that being emotionally healthy means being happy all the time. We might even feel we are owed happiness, that we deserve it, and we are entitled to all the happiness the world has to offer. We are taught that circumstances and other people control our emotions. Other people hurt our feelings or bring us joy, and things make us happy or make us sad. When our life is going good we feel good, and when our life is going bad we